Hello Friends! I hope that your holidays were lovely and that the first week of 2016 has been a good one for you! Its been a while since I shared an update with you and there has a actually been quite a lot going on.
We have been buusssssy. Of course there was the usual Christmas/New Years craziness, which honestly seems to get a bit more ridiculous every year. Is it me or are people getting meaner and meaner around the holidays?! I think we all need to relax a little, watch It’s a wonderful life and get some perspective on holiday shopping.
On top of this is the fact that we are currently in the process of selling our home, which means we have been in full on organizational/cleaning mode – not that it was a giant mess in here to begin with. Peter and I tend to be more minimalistic so we don’t have a lot of “stuff” BUT we had to really plan and coordinate our efforts since I am getting bigger and less able to help everyday.
We did have to hire some painters, which meant that I had to spend a few days sleeping at my parents, while Peter and the pups inhaled all the fumes (they weren’t that bad, but we wanted to be safe).
At the same time we have been trying to deal with the building process of our new house, which at times has been less than pleasant and a little stressful (more on this later) but everything seems to be going pretty smoothly now. Our move in date is about a month after the little bean is scheduled to arrive – which is scary for so many reasons. Eeeep.
So as you can see, lots to deal with around here - so I have been SOO grateful that this part of my pregnancy has been so smooth.
Seriously guys, the difficulty of the first few months seems so distant now. I really couldn’t have hoped for a better second and third trimester, I’ve had energy, not many sleep issues (minor ones lately but not nearly worth complaining about) no major mood issues or cravings or anything crazy that you typically hear about.
Although, I have been told I have a serious case of nesting – but I think the moving is at least 50% to blame on that one.
All that being said, I’m still not a huge fan of pregnancy – there are nice bits of course, but I’m not sure I quite I understand it when people say they loved it or they miss it. I am looking forward to meeting the bean, and feeling a little bit more like I am in my own body… I’m not huge on exercise or anything but I have dreams of being able to go for a jog!
Anyway, I’m just trying to enjoy the ease of this part of my pregnancy with a little excitement, nervousness, fear and curiosity about the part to come!
Here is a letter I wrote to our baby girl at 21 weeks when I could actually stop and think about more than how far the toilet was from me at any given moment! See the end for a little surprise!
" Week 21
Hello baby bean,
It's been a fun few weeks, between learning that you are a sweet girl to finally being able to sit down and pick some fun stuff I plan to buy you and dress you in!
I think maybe when you're older you won't appreciate it quite so much, especially with all of the embarrassing photos I am going to be taking - but I will have a ball.
Now that I know you're a girl, I have been thinking a lot about how I want to raise you. I've talked to your father about it a little. Here are some of the things that came up.
The things we want for you
1. More than anything for you to have faith, and a relationship with Jesus. It scares me to have such a huge responsibility of sharing that with you and guiding you in it.
2. For you to be kind and have empathy for those less fortunate than you. Maybe more than just empathy to have a heart that acts for others.
3. To be grateful for everyday, even when they're hard.
4. Being a woman can be hard and confusing. I want you to really know - that you don't have to deny your femininity to be strong or deny your strength to be feminine.
5. We want you to get your sense of worth from your relationship with Jesus, from observing strong role models around you and from the love of your family. Not from the things you will be bombarded with every day in the world that minimize the true value of your mind, your body and your heart.
6. We want you to try lots of things but to really persevere in a few that you love. So, that you find a passion you can make your life's work.
7. We want you to know where you come from, the two sides to your very special creation: A Hispanic immigrant family who faced struggles you hopefully will never have to and a long lineage of true Canadians. Both with so much love and so much rich history to share with you.
That's all I have for now. I'm sure I will think of plenty more before you arrive.
On another note, you have been very active this week! I had one day where I felt you flutter away all day. It was quite nice to know that you're obviously having a great time. It's important to be able to entertain oneself.
I had a hard time describing how it feels to your dad. All I could think to say was that it feel like there's a little air bubble in your belly and it quickly sort of expands and pops!
Also little one, we have a name for you. A name I think you will love. We can't at all agree on a middle name though. I see a lot of back and forth happening on this one. Maybe once we figure it out we will share it with everyone. "
So we figured it out and our baby bean now has a name- by the way, I got so used to calling her bean that it really started sounding like an appealing middle name, Peter was not so fond though. We did however agree on ….
We both loved Isla almost immediately and it seems to fit her in a strange way even though we’ve never met. She’s an Isla in my heart. Rosibel we debated a little bit more, but we wanted her to have something a little bit tied to my heritage. Rosibel is also the middle name of the other two most important women in my life, my mom and my sister - so it just felt fitting that it should be hers as well.