Hello!! Happy New Year! I hope that you all spent the last couple of weeks surrounded by family, friends, good food, good music, good parties and lots of love. I sure did and it was good for my soul.
Do you all have your resolutions figured out? How is it going on day 5 of 2015? I don't generally like resolutions (because I can't stick with them) but of course I make them every year. Something about fitness or health, career, blah blah blah... I just didn't want to focus on these typical things this year. I decided on something a little bit less fun, not because I don't like having fun, but just because it feels important to me right now. It's not exciting, and it'll be hard. This year I want to focus on a mindset of humility. I know, I told you - boring. It's just lately I've discovered I'm much more prideful than I realized. Pride hides you know? It shows up as a strength sometimes, it can be confused as a good thing.
I think humility sounds boring, you probably do too, thats because most of the time humility is considered a weakness isn't it? Humility is a lack of pride, it's modesty, meekness, submissiveness, and servility. The opposite of what we're really told to value most of the time. Humble people can be considered passive, not assertive, not powerful and who wants that? I hate to admit it but those things scare me because I am a bit of a control freak and I am afraid of weakness.What I’ve been realizing, though is how much more strength it actually takes to show real humility. I’m not saying it is going to be easy, at all, but these are some ways I will work on it this year;
- I can apologize, even if I know I’m right. This one’s hard sometimes, I mean if Peter is telling me I absolutely swore at his mother, and I think he’s gone mental, it’d be pretty hard for me to just say, “ok dear, I’m sorry I swore at your mom.” (This has never happened by the way, I’m just exaggerating for emphasis).
- I don’t have to compare myself to others. This has more to do with humility than you would expect. Humility requires you to accept and acknowledge that there are and always will be people in the world who are better than you at something, or a lot of things but also that there will always be people that you can help. It liberates me from feeling like I have to concern myself with how I measure up to others.
- I can fix my flaws and I can still learn. Being in this unique position means that there is always something left for me to learn. I am an expert at nothing. I am not perfect and am allowed to be flawed. I need to be quick to accept my flaws and work to correct them.
SO there it is, documented for you all to see so if I start being a prideful jerk here you can tell me to stop. Really, it seems kind of funny to write a post all about ME and my goals - talking about being humble, I realize that.
C.S. Lewis said “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” I'm not sure how he'd feel about this post, but I will try to live up to that statement!
What are your resolutions this year?
P.S. - That photo wasn't taken by me, its just where I want to be right now!